“Follow your heart.” It’s a well-known phrase to describe a lesser-known path.
In fact, it’s a path which is entirely unknown, making it too risky for many.
I should know – I spent the first 29 years of my life in various stages of denial of this path, then the next six letting go of the many illusions I’d collected along the way which blocked me from it.
Then, quite suddenly (although 35 years is not really so sudden) my heart was handed to me. You’d think after such mistreatment and neglect, it would have been close to death or at the very least dysfunctional, but I’m pleasantly surprised to say that it’s in pristine, perfect order.
Turns out that it has been in perfect order all this time. Through all my denial, addiction, separation, confusion, and yes, suffering.
In fact, it was during the suffering that my heart was actually doing it’s most sacred work of guiding me back to it.
Through it’s messenger system – my emotions – it sent out all manner of distress calls, to let me know that I’d wandered far off its desired course.
Through my experiences to date, I’ve learned this:
If I act in alignment with my heart’s desires, the Universe will support me. If I act in opposition to my heart’s desires, the Universe will support me and it will show me this through suffering. The Universe loves me so much, that it is always supporting my true heart’s desires, even when I don’t.
The heart knows. It just does. We can deny it, run from it, bypass it, try to cover it over, look away, stick our fingers in our ears and sing ‘nah nah nah nah nah,’ but that doesn’t change the fact that it knows.
It knows because that’s it’s entire job.
While the physical heart keeps our blood flowing through our body temple to maintain its health and aliveness, the spiritual heart, our sacred heart, keeps our soul’s desires flowing through our consciousness.
It’s just unfortunate that we are not taught this at a young age, but rather encouraged to take our cues on how to live from external sources – sources which have NO IDEA of our soul’s desires.
I lived that way until about age thirty, when I was struck with the bizarre feeling that I’d been asleep and had woken up in someone else’s life.
Even when we discover that the result of not following our heart is disconnection and emptiness, it’s still a daring proposition to follow the path of the heart because it is by it’s very nature, uncharted territory.
There are no trail maps for a journey such as this, just guide posts like ‘Pause,’ ‘Breathe,’ and ‘Listen.’
Following the heart means stepping into a brave new world because the soul’s desires are live streamed in real time with no regard for our history, our age, our culture or what our family expects.
We have no crowds to follow behind either, just support crews to encourage us with words like ‘You got this!” ‘You rock! and ‘Trust yourself!’
Along with the support crews, however, are the judges and silent scorners. Yet even they are calling us into our heart for we must practice deep self-love and compassion in order understand that they are simply afraid, just as we once were.
They may call us selfish or weird, but the truth is that people who impact humanity positively don’t please people. They change them. Not by telling others what to do but by following their heart at all costs.
Despite the challenges, however, I believe this is where true freedom lies.
It takes some getting used to and a lot practice to let go of others’ expectations (a well as our own!), but now that I’ve tasted the sweetness of my heart’s true path and the liberation it delivers, there’s no turning back.
I’ve been so used to doing things in order to be successful, but I’m realizing that the only thing I can ever truly succeed at is being me. Fully, completely, unashamedly.
In every moment, your heart is speaking to you, guiding you to experience your most alive and fulfilled Self.
Do you dare follow it?
I read and shared this article by the late great Wayne Dyer this week and it resonated with a lot of people (including me): Six Principles for Living an Inspired Life.
Join me and an amazing group of women for the ‘Journey to Shine’ yoga and divine dance retreat in three weeks! We have ONE place left! Come and connect with the light of your heart <3