What I’ve learned about alcoholism (and recovery)

Starting the climb

It took getting sober for me to understand anything about alcoholism. When I think back to the chain of events which led me to recovery I am grateful, but my heart aches for the millions of others like me who are still battling the disease. Addiction is one of the most confounding phenomena of our human existence, and honestly, I don’t know if I’ll ever fully understand it. Nature or nurture? Genetics or choice? It’s far too complicated for me … Keep reading…

Culture Shocking in the USA

Valley Springs house

I always say the biggest culture shock I experience is when visiting the USA. My American sister (we share a Father and were raised in different countries by different Mothers) does not understand this. Honestly, I don’t really understand it either. There is much I love about the United States whose culture I have been exposed to via films, television and music since as early as I can remember. I can still recite several songs from Sesame Street which are … Keep reading…

His moment: Tyrhone’s first flight

fly guy

This guy. Tyrhone. Named after Tyrone Power but with an extra ‘h’. We’ve fought so many times, almost-broken up 536 times.  It hurts, staying together through everything. “Hurt people hurt people,” we say to each other in an ironic way today. Today, when things are so much lighter than they once were. Literally. He hates it when people misuse that word, but I can say it because the day before yesterday he literally flew into the air like a bird. … Keep reading…

The jumping off point

Highway

“But there comes a time, when no matter how much you’ve planned, or how much money you’ve saved, you will need to make the leap.” I was talking to some friends at dinner a few weeks ago about leaving the life of traditional employment and a fixed address for one of material simplicity and freedom. I don’t often talk about this stuff with dinner companions, but this one night the conversation had gone that way so I was happy to … Keep reading…

How to deal with fear (if you are me)

lotus flower sarah somewhere

1. Live your life trying to avoid dangerous or fear-inducing activities. Achieve, buy, and try to please people. Only act on sure things and take very few risks. Hang out at the bar where the biggest fear you’ll experience is it closing too early, what people think of you or whether your shoes match your dress. 2. When that feels bad enough, and you are empty enough, sit in your living room clutching a wine-glass full of juice with your … Keep reading…