Some women get a new hairstyle or a new wardrobe when they need a boost. I get a new website design! Oh how times have changed…
I’ve wanted to change the site for some time. I agonized over themes for a while, then gave up and moved on to more interesting things, like shovelling guacamole into my face. Change is scary, even when it’s about how to present my ramblings to the world, so I found myself thinking, “Too hard, can’t be bothered, pass the chips por favor.”
And then, like most things in life, it just happened, at exactly the right time it was meant to. I chose the photo for the header, from the Ta-gong grasslands in China, and imagined the flags spelling out the name of the site. Of course, there is no way in hell I could ever make that happen myself, but I live with a very talented man who could. So I asked nicely.
And as always Tyrhone obliged my crazy idea, but was immediately shut down when he suggested adding some other cool landmarks to the scene.
“No, no, I just want it simple,” I assured him.
Thankfully, he ignored me, and before long I was jumping around shouting, “Put in the Great Wall! An auto-rickshaw! You on a motorbike!” I liked this game of me barking ideas and him bringing them to life with his skill, patience and uncanny ability to ignore me when necessary.
A couple of days, a LOT of strong coffees and a few disagreements throughout the creative process later, and here she is! She is a work-in-progress, a little like me, and I’m still ironing out the kinks (a lot like me), but I think we’ve come up with a lovely new home to document this wonderful journey we’re on.
A huge thank you to Tyrhone, who is officially THE most patient man on the planet (whilst I’m officially the most impatient woman on the planet), as well as exceptionally talented and creative. I really love my new on-line home, despite the fact that it would have been very boring had I gotten my way. She’s a beauty!
It’s turned out to be a wonderful week, some of which must be attributed to you guys. It always touches my heart when people reach out and connect, and one such instance this past week had a huge impact on me. The lovely Steph from 20 Years Hence suggested a wonderful meditation teacher to me, Jon Kabat-Zinn which once again, came at exactly the right time.
This video is rather long, so I wasn’t sure whether I should include it here, but honestly I just found this talk so wonderful that I want to share it with you. If you have time, great, if not then maybe another time. But it’ll probably be the best 72 minutes of your day, I know it was for me.
Why do we find it so hard to be still? I don’t find it hard at all to be physically lazy, but to ‘rest in awareness,’ as Mr Kabat-Zinn puts it is just such a foreign concept. I know it’s something I need to practice.
We’ll be back to regular programming here soon, but first I just feel compelled to share the wonderful poem read at the end of this video. It’s so beautifully spoken by this man, so if you can listen to it rather than read it, then please do (it’s in the last minute or so). I’ve never really been one for poetry, but this one caused tears to stream down my face with it’s powerful message of self-love, described with such beautifully evocative language.
Love After Love, by Derek Walcott
The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door,
in your own mirror and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread.
Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.